Submissives: Slaves vs Pets

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Submissives are as different as the people that dominate them. The term submissive refers to one who likes to submit to a master, to give up control for periods of time. He/she often still has opinions and choices they will make. One still shares in the power balance with their dominant and  sex is often a large part of this intense relationship. Punishments and pain are real, but they don’t usually overlap into day-to-day life.

Slaves and Pets are two subsects under the submissive umbrella, and there is often a lot of debate in  BDSM  circles on their definitions and identities. Here’s my take:

Slaves choose to give up control completely. The power balance tips to the dominant’s direction. This is a choice a slave makes, not something they are forced to do. This is often a 24/7 role. They may still go to work, but when they return home it is full-on BDSM. Sex isn’t necessarily the largest part of this relationship, but the lifestyle may include more intense pain, humiliation, and pleasure. If a dominant asks one to do things against the law or your morals, he/she is not a true dominant.

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Pets lean close to the slave side of submission. How pets differ from other types of submissives is that sex is not always a part of the role, and in many instances is not. Choosing to be a pet is to give yourself to another and obey. This gives you more pleasure than sexual play. This can be a dangerous submission as there is a possibility of losing oneself mentally because you rarely have thoughts of your own. Most pets do not work and live with their master.

Giving up control on any level takes a lot of strength. Much thought and consideration should be taken before one becomes a submissive. Communication between a submissive and dominant is key when beginning or deepening this type of relationship.

Have you been, or think of becoming a slave or pet?

Tell us what you think! 23 Comments

  1. Ajithnair

    April 10, 2019 at 4:11 pm

    A want a mistress who makes me her dog, spits on my mouth and makes me lick her boots and shoes, and suck her toes and…

  2. Joshua Vandervennet

    May 24, 2018 at 12:53 am

    I’m looking for a mistress or goddess to use my mouth as a toilet. I’m twenty.

  3. November 3, 2015 at 9:52 am

    I love to worship mistress feet, and I love to lick her…

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  5. jaben

    December 8, 2013 at 3:04 pm

    Hi, I’m looking for a mistress to be her pet slave.

  6. 'Slave' Mark

    July 27, 2013 at 2:48 pm

    Hi, I want to be a ‘slave’/submissive for any woman or group of women who get enjoyment by Kicking a Man’s Balls! I want that sooo much! I’d like to be stripped & bound for a women’s group & “sold” as a ‘slave’ at an auction to one of them. (SHE would decide the ‘limits’? & length of service, & I would have no say at all.) …. “I know, I know, folks. But I can dream can’t I??” 😉

  7. Ebra

    June 29, 2013 at 9:05 pm

    It is a good article. I have been thinking about being a slave because I have a foot fetish and women’s feet really make me so weak and I cannot resist women’s feet. It is a great point which is talking about beginning or deepening this type of relationship!

    • Holly


      June 29, 2013 at 9:58 pm

      Thanks, Ebra. The great thing about having a foot fetish is you don’t have to be in a slave/master relationship (which can take a lot of time to develop) to enjoy it. Many women (including myself) love to have attention paid to their tootsies!

      • Ebra

        June 30, 2013 at 7:05 am

        I know, but I like to be slave to her! Being under her control is the greatest feeling I could have. I want to be dominated.

  8. noussa

    November 30, 2012 at 4:04 pm

    hi i want to stay under my mistress feet serve her

    • Jennifer

      January 31, 2019 at 10:01 am

      I’m the kind of mistress looking for an honest and caring slave or submissive.

  9. July 16, 2012 at 4:53 am

    I want to be a toilet slave to a dominatrix

    • Holly


      July 16, 2012 at 11:02 am

      Hi Chuck, I have an idea, but what exactly is a toilet slave?

      • Ebra

        June 29, 2013 at 9:01 pm

        Hi Holly,

        A toilet slave is a kind of “shit slave” who likes their master or mistress to piss or defecate on them. It is a disgusting type of fetish to most people, but some people enjoy it. Some of those slaves like to rub their body parts with that shit, while others, however, eat and drink it!!

        • Holly


          June 29, 2013 at 9:55 pm

          Thanks for sharing. With fetish, to each his own, but this is definitely not my cup of tea!

  10. July 14, 2012 at 1:05 am

    I love to be dominated by a mistress. I love to be as a slave fo mistress or goddes

    • Holly


      July 15, 2012 at 10:41 am

      Hi Jack, Are you already in a mistress/slave relationship, or are you looking?

      • sam

        July 15, 2012 at 5:48 pm

        hi i am looking for mistress

        • Lola Page


          July 16, 2012 at 11:21 am

          Hi Sam. Stay tuned for an upcoming article about how to find a dominatrix or mistress!

      • Anthony

        June 20, 2018 at 2:48 pm

        Hi Holly, I am looking to be in a Mistress-led relationship, what must I do for that to happen?

        • Holly


          June 21, 2018 at 8:36 pm

          Hi Anthony, I always recommend niche dating sites that cater to people in the bdsm community or who are ready to explore kink and d/s relationships. Create a clear, specific profile that not only describes yourself, but also the kind of relationship you are seeking. If you have a kink community where you live that throws fetish or kink events that’s also a place to look, as well as sex clubs.

    • URtongueslave

      June 8, 2018 at 9:27 pm

      I am a subbie slutty male sex slave seeking a strict if slightly cruel sadistic.

      • Jennifer

        January 31, 2019 at 9:59 am

        Hi, how are you doing? I’m mistress Jennifer, seeking a slave or submissive if your honest and trustworthy.

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